Pet Peeves: Flakers.
Throughout the week on a college campus, especially here at BYU, students spend most of their evenings up in the library or dorm rooms attempting to study and get all the week’s homework done on time. But once all of Friday’s classes are done, the fun begins! I know that during the course of a week, I begin to make plans for the weekend a week or sometimes even two weeks in advance. My pet peeve is when that plan doesn’t end up happening because someone doesn’t follow through! For example, I had met this guy at the beginning of the semester that I had somehow ended up being paired with on a group date. We had a really fun time and later invited me to an event that next week. I was really stoked! The guy was cute, funny and getting asked to go with him made me feel pretty good. We kept in contact with each other off and on for the next week and then the night that we had planned to go out, he didn’t contact me at all. I found that incredibly rude! I found out later he had “forgotten” about our plans and went out with someone else. Maybe it was supposed to be a subtle way of telling me he didn’t want to hang out, but I still don’t know.
I believe the solution is simple: don’t be a flake when it comes to making plans. I think if you have arranged to do something with someone, you are obligated to let that person know if plans won’t work out/something else comes up and to be responsible enough to not “forget” about the plans either. This pet peeve might hit a little closer to home for me just because of the date I was ditched on and I prefer to have things planned out ahead of time. If you can’t tell, being flexible is definitely not one of my strong points. But being flexible should not make flaking out on plans or not following through on arrangements good or acceptable.
It is the most annoying thing when people don't follow through on plans because there are times when it can ruin a night and that can be very frustrating.
ReplyDeleteI'm much the same way - flexibility is not usually an option. Almost everything has a plan that it usually never adheres to, but as long as there's a plan, life is good. But I also know that some of the best experiences of my life have been because of spontaneous decisions. So I suggest not to wait for Friday to plan a date, just go on one tonight.
ReplyDeleteI agree. I always wonder why the person cannot just say, "Hey tonight actually isn't going to work". That way you can make new plans and no one is really offended. People just feel rude doing that so they instead "forget" about the plans and it ruins your night.
ReplyDeleteIt seems like this is also a little bit about respect. I mean this guy couldn't even take two minutes to call you and tell you that the plans you two had weren't going to work out. That is so disrespectful. Whether he had a good reason or not I still think out of repect he should have at least taken the time to tell you so you weren't waiting around wondering what was going on.
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